The second date is very important. It is the moment when decisions are made about what to do next. Maybe the first date was just an illusion, maybe it was just a coincidence that you had so much fun. Or maybe it wasn’t? Maybe it was all real and this time you will succeed in forming a relationship….
There is only one way to find out: Make a second date.
Do you want it to work out for you? Do you want to go on another date with her? Are you wondering where to go, what to do and what to talk about? If you want to know the answers to these questions, be sure to read this article.
Entry in cooperation with the portal Facet365.pl
Nothing is a foregone conclusion after the first date
There is a bit of nerves during the first date, after all, it is an attempt to show your best side. However, it will be hard to find out everything about the partner at that time. One thing is for sure, if she’s not the woman for you, you’ll definitely know it.
I remember one date where a woman told me that she was very dominant and jealous, I knew immediately that she was not for me. I had the proverbial coffee with her and left, wishing her all the best.
Another time, a girl came to my house and felt very bad. It turned out that she was allergic to cats. I have two of them. Bad luck, because I love my cats very much.
What is not clear on the first date is whether someone will be your partner in the future. Getting to that definitely takes more time spent talking together than just impressions of the first date.
That’s what second dates are for.
Second date: essential tips
The second date is not decisive, but it is certainly much more important than the first date to be able to determine if this is the person you want to tie your future with.
So familiarize yourself with some tips to make sure everything goes well.
1 – Don’t take too many risks
Ideally, a second date should be a continuation of the first, not something completely different. Don’t put a woman in a situation that she doesn’t expect from you after the first date. This is definitely not the best idea.
2 Make sure that the meetings are in a similar atmosphere.
If on the first date you took care of a casual and relaxed atmosphere, a woman will be very surprised if you take her to a snobby, exclusive restaurant for dinner. It is better not to change the atmosphere dramatically. Over time, you’ll find out what she likes and you’ll be able to adjust the way you spend time together to suit the preferences of both of you. For the moment, keep the same course.
3 Stick to what worked during the first date
If we do the same thing over and over again, won’t she get bored with me? Better this way than to come up with a new attraction every five minutes. As they say, what’s too much is not healthy If a particular strategy worked during the first date don’t change it.
4 Focus on her.
How is your work? What do you enjoy doing? What do you value most in life? If you listen to her well and in depth you will certainly find out what to talk about and where to go on the second date.
5 Find the balance.
A restaurant? Preferably not too expensive and not too cheap. Conversation? Not too trivial and not too deep. Sexual overtones? Not existing at all and not too intrusive.
Look for the golden mean.
6. act together
What can you do to make a second date a success? Don’t forget that it’s all about having a good time together, look for activities that will get both of you involved. Then you will best feel the chemistry between you working.
7 It doesn’t have to be intimate.
There is an unwritten rule about sex on second dates, but it’s not true. Some people prefer to wait with sex, but if you feel the chemistry between you of course it can be a step you take on a second date.
It’s something you definitely won’t miss.
8 A second date doesn’t have to mean a date at home.
A second date is a good time to invite her home, but you need to make sure that this idea suits her as well. It’s best to plan other activities and possibly invite her home later. A second date that ends at home can be considered the icing on the cake.
9 It’s not about being perfect, it’s about showing that you’re making an effort.
What if something goes wrong, if you err on some point? The truth is, she may not realize it at all, or even find it funny. The point is not to make the second date perfect. It’s about making sure she sees the effort you put in and the effort you put in to make things go well.
10. The second date is important, but not decisive.
Get it into your head. The second meeting is important, but not decisive.Just as on the first date, you don’t have to obsessively try to make sure everything goes according to plan. It is important that you relax and let things run their natural course.
Of course, both of you should learn a little more about each other so you can decide if you want to go on a third date.
What can you talk about on a second date?
The most important thing during dating is conversation, so you’re bound to wonder what to talk about so as not to be monotonous.
Here are some sample conversation topics:
Preferences: books, movies, TV series.
Tastes and interests are always a good topic for conversation. If you don’t have similar preferences or hobbies it can be difficult. Things may go well in the beginning, but as time goes by, having common interests and preferences is key to forming a relationship.
Relationships with family and friends.
Family and friends are very important to everyone. It’s an interesting topic to talk about and can say a lot about what kind of person you are dating.
Best moments in life.
What does this mean? Ask about all those moments when she felt she was alive and truly happy. Recalling such memories is always fascinating.
Avoid talking about negative events in life. There will come a time for that yet.
How does she see herself in the future?
Both of you are certainly curious about how the other person sees himself in the future. In the near future and a little further in the future. Of course, this is just wishful thinking and a purely theoretical topic, since none of us can predict the future.
Concern and uncertainty.
Even though we can’t see it at first glance, each of us is afraid of something and uncertain in certain areas. Opening up and talking about it is a big step in building a relationship. It can help the other person feel closer to you.
Where to go on a first date.
We already know what to do and what to talk about on a first date. Now it’s time for tips on where to go on a second date.
The second meeting is important, but a lot depends on where you met – whether it was a flirt in the office or on the Internet on the best Polish dating site, so you need to carefully choose the place for the second date.
It’s not about taking her to exclusive restaurants and then to the cinema (although such outings can show us how a person behaves in such places), it’s about choosing a place where you will feel comfortable and can talk.
These can be ordinary places, such as a park, a beach or a museum. You can go for a drink or just walk around town.
Often a second date starts with a drink, and if you get on well perhaps the meeting will end up at her house or yours. In that case, let her decide whose house she wants to go to.
She will certainly choose her home. This is an instinctive choice that will give her a sense of security. Women feel safer in familiar territory.
You already have all the information,needed to make the second date a success.
So what are you waiting for?